In And Out Of Our Lives

I've been thinking about this lately, why do people come in and out of our lives, with some staying for the long haul (granted, not too many do that), and most leaving, never to be heard from again.  Especially people that were important to us at the time, and we thinking that we were to them. People who we thought would be friends with forever, yet, right now we have no idea where they are or even why they seemed to have disappeared.  And are they, by chance, wondering the same thing about us?

 I know that people move away and life gets busy and people get lazy (myself included) and time goes by until you just forget or think it is too late, why even bother. Which I guess explains why a lot of  friendships go by the wayside and not maintained like the ones that have stuck around.  Still, is it because they weren't as important to you as you thought? Or likewise you weren't as important to them as you thought? Why do we maintain certain friendships but not others, even though they feel like the same importance?

I read this:

 

 

and I thought, do people really walk away from you or does life just take over and they somehow slip away from you, not meaning to, but life just happens.  Granted, there are people who unmistakenly walk away from you and you know it, from break-ups to having a fight with a best friend, etc, and that is the end of that, done, game over.

 

But the ones who you really care about that are walking away from you, with you knowing they're walking away, how do you let them go?  That is so much easier said than done, especially since you don't know, or I suppose don't want to know, that their part in your story is over. And really, you never know, because even I had someone come back into my life that I hadn't spoken to or seen in over 30 years, but I had thought of him throughout the years once in a while so I googled his name and the rest is history.  With the advent of the internet, you can almost find anyone, so maybe the story isn't over for people.

 

Anyways, I still wonder why certain people come in and then go out of our lives.  They don't all serve a purpose. And maybe someone has wondered that about me, why did I come in and now am out of their life. 

 

I guess that it is just that: Life.

 

Whether we like it or not.

 

Whether we want it or not.